Because the teenage years become a time of constant change (physical, emotional,mental, and hormone), it is understandable to see some frustration and agitation in a growing teenager. The teen may be trying to figure out who he is and what he is going to do with his life. He may also be looking for a place to fit, in school and even home. However, when that anger seems to be a frequently recurring episode in your home and may reach an almost violent level, the teen may have crossed the line into anger management problems.
There are several different identifying signs that a parent can use to see if their child has anger management issues. Be aware of these situations:
*If the teen seems to get angry and out of control over very small issues and things
*If they begin to destroy your home or property as a result of this anger
*If they begin to abuse drugs or alcohol
*If arguments become a regular part of their daily routine. They may easily fight with friends, family, and classmates. These fights may even lead to violence
*If they begin to abuse your pet or other animals
Any of these situations can lead into a very dangerous and reckless lifestyle for a teen affected by anger management issues. You can try to help your teen out at home by offering unwavering support and love through the arguments. You can also try to decipher what exactly is bothering your teen. The little issue that set them off probably has a larger issue that is hidden below the surface. Know their triggers and find ways to avoid them. Also, engage your teen in an educational conversation to help them understand why their anger must be controlled.
Although you may do all of these things, your teen may still be showing signs of an anger problem. It may be time to look to the professionals for help. Perhaps family counseling could be an option. However, it is often difficult to get your teen to sit down and actually discuss their problems in front of you.
Some parents may look to send their teen to a boarding school that can offer 24 hour supervision and direction in their teen’s life. Often a strict, regimented daily schedule can make a lot of difference in a teen’s life. Without this routine, teens have a hard time functioning.
A Christian boarding school can offer your teen the help they need to understand, cope with, and work through their anger problems. These schools have experienced, gifted staff who can help your teen succeed in school and life. They can help regain friendships, family relationships, and even a spiritual connection with God.